I feel like people are ganging up on me–even my family and friends. Everybody tells me I need to go to treatment. They tell me I’m out of control. But I still have a good job, and my kids still love me (even though they live with my ex). I’m not lying in the gutter. The truth is, vodka is my best friend. It’s not judgy, it’s reliable, and it’s legal. I just wish everybody would get off my back.
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2025/04/Why-Should-I-quit-2-1319763211_1200x630.jpeg6301200Jeff Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay2025-04-03 17:41:082025-04-05 14:26:05Why Should I Quit?
Dear Jeff and Debra: I’ve been told to go to AA, but I’m turned off by the use of “God” in the 12 Steps. I can’t believe in something that can’t be proven. I believe in science.-Factual Frank Dear Factual: Prove it! If you’re a man of science, show us you’re willing to follow the […]
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/Science-and-Faith-1280.-1296421142_3840x2160.jpeg7201280Jeff Jay & Debra Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay & Debra Jay2025-03-30 15:12:072025-04-01 12:01:21A Science and Faith Connection?
Alcoholic beverages are not required for any social gathering, but you should have some fun alternatives. Holiday mocktails and drink alternatives are a great way to go.
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/CNN-5-scaled.jpg13762560Jeff Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay2024-08-24 09:30:002024-08-22 15:23:43Jeff Jay on CNN
Alcohol and drug intervention was the subject of an in-depth interview with Dr. Taz. Jeff and Debra Jay shared specific strategies families can use to help their addicted loved one accept treatment.
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2024/08/Dr-Taz-Jeff-Debra.jpg14182532Jeff Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay2024-08-22 13:46:122024-08-22 14:53:13Alcohol and Drug Intervention
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/Enjoying-pool-party.-604825492_1258x837-studying-the-problem.jpeg7831255Jeff Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay2024-07-30 17:15:152024-08-22 13:53:22Studying the Problem
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/Int-train-group-Parker-1080.jpg7201080Jeff Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay2024-03-13 11:13:402024-12-16 20:08:31Interventionist Training and Certification
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/Awakening-the-Family.jpg12801920Debra E. Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgDebra E. Jay2024-01-29 15:06:562024-01-29 15:06:56Awakening the Family: Becoming a Recovery Team
https://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2023/10/kids-cant-do-it-alone.jpg12801920Jeff Jay & Debra Jayhttps://lovefirst.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/LF-master-sm-340x75-2.jpgJeff Jay & Debra Jay2023-10-27 14:37:192023-10-27 14:37:19Kids Can’t Do It Alone
Why Should I Quit?
I feel like people are ganging up on me–even my family and friends. Everybody tells me I need to go to treatment. They tell me I’m out of control. But I still have a good job, and my kids still love me (even though they live with my ex). I’m not lying in the gutter. The truth is, vodka is my best friend. It’s not judgy, it’s reliable, and it’s legal. I just wish everybody would get off my back.
A Science and Faith Connection?
Dear Jeff and Debra: I’ve been told to go to AA, but I’m turned off by the use of “God” in the 12 Steps. I can’t believe in something that can’t be proven. I believe in science.-Factual Frank Dear Factual: Prove it! If you’re a man of science, show us you’re willing to follow the […]
Intervention Step by Step
Fr. Bill W interviews Jeff Jay on how to use love to break denial and get an alcoholic into treatment.
Merry Holiday Drink Alternatives
Alcoholic beverages are not required for any social gathering, but you should have some fun alternatives. Holiday mocktails and drink alternatives are a great way to go.
Why We Keep Enabling—and 4 Ways to Stop
When family members are concerned about a loved one’s alcohol or other drug use, they often do the wrong things.
Perseverance
How to handle the ups and downs of early recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. Perseverance in action.
Jeff Jay on CNN
Jeff Jay was seen on CNN discussing addiction and the family. Hosts Briana Keiler and Boris Sanchez interviewed Jeff…
Alcohol and Drug Intervention
Alcohol and drug intervention was the subject of an in-depth interview with Dr. Taz. Jeff and Debra Jay shared specific strategies families can use to help their addicted loved one accept treatment.
Now on Audible
Debra Jay’s best-selling book, It Takes a Family, is now available as an audiobook.
Studying the Problem
I know I need to quit drinking, but the AA Big Book isn’t helping me. What should I do?
A Science and Faith Connection?
Can Science prove that AA works?
I Hate Growth
Change is necessary, they say, but sometimes I just don’t like it.
Interventionist Training and Certification
Clinical intervention training in the Love First model. Five days with Jeff and Debra Jay, in person.
Awakening the Family: Becoming a Recovery Team
Family is primordial. It defines us. It is who we belong to and who belongs to us. … Addiction changes that.
Kids Can’t Do It Alone
My grandchildren are suffering because their parents are addicted. What can I do?