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get to the heart of recovery

A Love First intervention defines who we are,

and where this journey will take our family.

Intervention opens the door to treatment for alcoholism and drug addiction, and paves the way for long-term recovery. You can support your loved one by creating a Recovery Team.

Jeff and Debra Jay have been helping families for more than 30 years. Their best-selling book, Love First, provides real solutions. Whether you work with a clinical interventionists or not, you’ll find resources on our site to move forward with confidence.

Love First Intervention

Learn how to create a pathway to Yes. The Love First model of intervention has been guiding families and professionals for decades. Whether you work through the process on your own or with one of our professional interventionists, we can give you the best chance for success.

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Love First

The most widely read book on intervention, now in its third edition. Love First has guided thousands of families through the intervention process, using the power of love to bring healing and recovery. The companion book to “It Takes a Family.”

Debra Jay reads the Introduction & Chapter 1
of Love First.

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Structured Family Recovery®

By creating a Recovery Team, we can leverage the power of family to avoid relapse and achieve long-term success. Structured Family Recovery® changes outcomes. Based on the book, It Takes a Family, by Debra Jay, the SFR program heals, strengthens and transforms families.

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It Takes a Family

This revolutionary book shows families how to support their loved one’s new sobriety and bring the family back together again. Structured Family Recovery® is the key. This book is an essential guide and it is the companion to “Love First.” Now in its 2nd edition.

Debra Jay reads the Introduction & Chapter 1
of It Takes a Family.

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1. Why Intervention?

Is an intervention right for you? What are the alternatives? What are the next right steps? (1 min, 2 sec)

2. A Love First Intervention

An overview of the Love First intervention process, and working with one of our clinical interventionists. (3 min, 19 sec)

3. Structured Family Recovery

The key to avoiding relapse and bringing families back together again. SFR is all about the power of family. (1 min, 38 sec)

4. Consultation and Strategy

What’s the next right step? A 1-hour consult with a clinical interventionist will help you develop the right strategy. (54 sec)

5. My Passion for Intervention

Jeff Jay has been helping families and people suffering from addiction for more than 30 years. (1 min, 47 sec)

6. Website Overview

With over 120 pages and posts, along with many hours of podcasts, we thought a tour of the website might be helpful. (6 min, 53 sec)

Meet our

Professional

Interventionists

Meet Our Team

Books by Jeff & Debra Jay

Questions & Consultations

Let’s begin with a confidential conversation. Whether you are dealing with alcoholism, drug addiction, co-occuring disorders, or other issues, we can help.

Mentoring & Monitoring

Recovery mentoring provides a bridge between treatment and the home environment. Monitoring increases accountability and rebuilds trust.

Podcasts, Articles, Blog & More

• The Best Minds Podcast

• Love First Blog

• Snap Trainings for Families

• 6 Articles on Intervention
(plus Jeff Jay’s story)

Podcasts, Articles & More

Kids Can’t Do It Alone

My grandchildren are suffering because their parents are addicted. What can I do?

Addiction recovery, Twelve Steps, Weed

Working a Program of Recovery

He was only drinking and smoking weed, but he had terrible consequences.

Addiction recovery, Spirituality, Twelve Steps

Acceptance

Acceptance isn't resignation. Instead, it serves as a starting point for transformation and healing.

intervention training with Jeff and Debra Jay

Interventionist training

Interventionist Training and Certification

Interventionist training and certification in the Love First model. Five days with Jeff and Debra Jay, in person, June 18-23, 2023.

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Addiction recovery, Alcoholism, Love First Blog, Spirituality, Twelve Steps

The Robber and The Gift

Alcoholism is a thief because it takes so much from us mentally, physically, and spiritually. It is cruel thief.

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Love First Blog, Uncategorized

Holly Jolly Alcohol Free Alternative

Staying safe and avoiding "Holiday Heart" are important topics.

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Train with Jeff and Debra Jay

Experienced clinicians and clergy can train personally with Jeff and Debra Jay. The Jay’s legendary, multi-day trainings are rigorous and enlightening.

2 trainings to choose from:

Love First Certified Clinical Interventionist

Structured Family Recovery® Counselor

These trainings redefine excellence and raise the bar for clinical training. Lodging and meals are included with tuition, along with custom workbooks and field materials.

“Hands down, the most professional, content rich training I have ever taken.”
–Helen Parker, Ph.D.

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Love First, 3rd edition by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay

Clinical Interventionist Training & Certification

June 18 – 23, 2023

The McIver Center at The Retreat
Minneapolis, MN

Interventionist Training details

“The intervention training was the best I have attended in twenty-five years as a counselor and supervisor. It was engaging, relevant, and imminently useful. I would not hesitate to recommend the Love First Clinical Intervention training to anyone.”

Jeff Henrich, MA, LAADC
President & CEO
Guest House, Lake Orion, MI

Structured Family Recovery® Training & Cert.

Feb 15 – 27, 2023

Private Webinar
Highly Interactive

SFR Counselor Training details

“Structured Family Recovery is the most important work to come along in the field of recovery in my 25 years as a licensed therapist and clinical supervisor. This training gave us a complete framework and practical skills ready to put into practice.”

Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD

It Takes a Family, second edition by Debra Jay