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Jeff Jay2025-06-09 13:03:102025-06-09 13:03:12Why You’re Enabling and 4 Ways to QuitA Love First intervention defines who we are,
and where this journey will take our family.
Intervention opens the door to treatment for alcoholism and drug addiction, and paves the way for long-term recovery. You can support your loved one by creating a Recovery Team.
Jeff and Debra Jay have been helping families for more than 30 years. Their best-selling book, Love First, provides real solutions. Whether you work with a clinical interventionists or not, you’ll find resources on our site to move forward with confidence.
Learn how to create a pathway to Yes. The Love First model of intervention has been guiding families and professionals for decades. Whether you work through the process on your own or with one of our professional interventionists, we can give you the best chance for success.
Love First
The most widely read book on intervention, now in its third edition. Love First has guided thousands of families through the intervention process, using the power of love to bring healing and recovery. The companion book to “It Takes a Family.”
Debra Jay reads the Introduction & Chapter 1
of Love First.
By creating a Recovery Team, we can leverage the power of family to avoid relapse and achieve long-term success. Structured Family Recovery® changes outcomes. Based on the book, It Takes a Family, by Debra Jay, the SFR program heals, strengthens and transforms families.
It Takes a Family
This revolutionary book shows families how to support their loved one’s new sobriety and bring the family back together again. Structured Family Recovery® is the key. This book is an essential guide and it is the companion to “Love First.” Now in its 2nd edition.
Debra Jay reads the Introduction & Chapter 1
of It Takes a Family.
1. Why Intervention?
Is an intervention right for you? What are the alternatives? What are the next right steps? (1 min, 2 sec)
2. A Love First Intervention
An overview of the Love First intervention process, and working with one of our clinical interventionists. (3 min, 19 sec)
3. Structured Family Recovery
The key to avoiding relapse and bringing families back together again. SFR is all about the power of family. (1 min, 38 sec)
4. Consultation and Strategy
What’s the next right step? A 1-hour consult with a clinical interventionist will help you develop the right strategy. (54 sec)
5. My Passion for Intervention
Jeff Jay has been helping families and people suffering from addiction for more than 30 years. (1 min, 47 sec)
6. Website Overview
With over 120 pages and posts, along with many hours of podcasts, we thought a tour of the website might be helpful. (6 min, 53 sec)
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Therapists, social workers, counselors, EAPs, clergy,
psychologists, physicians, and other helping professionals…
Train with Jeff and Debra Jay
Experienced clinicians and clergy can train personally with Jeff and Debra Jay. The Jay’s legendary, multi-day trainings are rigorous and enlightening.
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These trainings redefine excellence and raise the bar for clinical training. Lodging and meals are included with tuition, along with custom workbooks and field materials.
Let’s begin with a confidential conversation. Whether you are dealing with alcoholism, drug addiction, co-occuring disorders, or other issues, we can help.
We help rebuild trust and confidence with our mentoring and testing services. We help the newly-recovering person beat the odds and avoid relapse.
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“The intervention training was the best I have attended in twenty-five years as a counselor and supervisor. It was engaging, relevant, and imminently useful. I would not hesitate to recommend the Love First Clinical Intervention training to anyone.”
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