Structured Family Recovery®

It’s time to leverage the power of family

“Debra Jay unlocks the secrets of this revolutionary approach to addiction. She adds a significant new dimension by focusing on the role of the family both in creating this system of care management and in making it work, long term.”

Robert L. DuPont, M.D.
Founding Director,  National Institute on Drug Abuse
Former White House Drug Czar

It Takes a Family improves treatment outcomes by creating a recovery team that will support the patient after treatment. The recovery team is made up of family members and friends who work under the guidance of a specially trained counselor.

The Structured Family Recovery (SFR) curriculum is delivered through weekly, one-hour conference calls, which eliminates the need for office visits. The calls feature education, discussion, and planning, helping the family team create a supportive environment.

In a few short weeks, SFR reduces the chance of relapse and creates a reliable framework for success. The patient joins the SFR calls on week four, often while they are still in treatment. The Twelve Steps are at the heart of every meeting, helping family members lead the way into durable recovery.

It Takes a Family provides an entire year of SFR meetings and curriculum, including how to develop a recovery plan and how to develop a relapse plan.

Treatment stabilizes our addicted loved one, but it doesn’t keep them clean and sober. That requires an ongoing program of recovery. Addiction is a chronic disease. Without proper management, the addict will relapse.

Using Structured Family Recovery (SFR), families don’t leave success to chance. They can re-create what special groups (impaired physicians, attorneys and airline pilots) have always enjoyed: a guided path to lasting sobriety.

Structured Family Recovery is a weekly program that moves family and friends beyond enabling and frustration, and makes everyone part of a recovery team. Working together creates transparency and accountability in a way that prevents the disease from regaining control. SFR brings families back together, prevents relapse and lays a foundation for real recovery.

After all, our addicted loved one and our family have the same goal: let’s be happy again.

Create a home
for recovery
in your home.

Begin with 3 easy steps:


  1. Get It Takes a Family from your library or bookseller.

  2. Read the first 34 pages.

  3. Ask another family member to do the same.

Listen as a mother speaks with Debra & Jeff Jay about her year-long experience doing Structured Family Recovery with 5 members of her family and SFR counselor, Tamara James.

Watch the story of Structured Family Recovery

“We used to stand outside the recovery circle and judge my mother. Now we’ve all stepped inside the circle, holding hands and doing recovery together.”

–27-year-old son describing his experience with SFR

Read an excerpt from It Takes a Family

Including the Introduction: We Come Home Together
and Chapter One: The Missing Element

“In It Takes a Family, Debra Jay both revolutionizes recovery and brings it back to its roots. It’s what families have long been waiting for.”

–Sandy Peddicord, former producer, The Oprah Winfrey Show

Debra Jay discusses SFR

at the Betty Ford Center Women’s Symposium at UCLA

For details on working with a Structured Family Recovery counselor,
contact Lori Forseth at 888-533-1312 or lori@lovefirst.net

Available from amazon or wherever books are sold

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Recovery Mentoring

Would you rather learn to swim by reading a book about it, or by having someone get in the pool and show you what to do?

Recovery Monitoring

Random screening helps rebuild trust. Using a trusted 3rd party to test for substances, families rest easy and patients stand proud.

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