What does it take for a person to accept help?
The most damaging myths:
Some people say: “You need to let them hit bottom.”
Or: “You can’t help someone who doesn’t want help.”
Many families are told they must wait for their alcoholic or addict to hit bottom before there is any hope for recovery. But these myths subject families to years of pain and unhappiness. No one ever mentions that when the alcoholic hits bottom, they take their family along for the ride — even the smallest children.
A Love First intervention provides a different solution.
Ask a different question:
“If you can’t help an addict until he wants help, what will get him to want help?”
When we ask “what will it take?”, we change everything. We stop focusing on the problem, and start working on the solution. Love First intervention uses the power of love and concern in a specific and organized way to break through denial, so we can help our loved ones get the help they need.
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The Modular System
careful preparation | thorough planning
A Love First intervention is divided into three modules. We proceed in order from assessment to training to rehearsal to intervention. There are more items included in our service, like treatment selection, which span modules.
Module 1: Assessment and Training. This multi-hour conference will galvanize your team and train them in the fundamentals of a Love First intervention. Your clinical interventionist will gather a very thorough history from everyone, so we can provide a comprehensive assessment and develop an effective strategy. This will solidify your team and build confidence in the process. Module 1 also includes training on writing your intervention letters, using the 7-point process from the book Love First, along with instruction for bottom line letters. We’ll take time to plan for objections that may come up during the intervention, and develop appropriate answers. We will also make treatment recommendations as a result of the assessment, and help you make contact with appropriate treatment providers. Details about planning and timing will be addressed. Structured Family Recovery® will also be discussed.
Module 2: Rehearsal and Preparation. Planning and preparation are the keys to a successful intervention, and in Module 2 we will be focused on fine-tuning the details. Module 2 is a rehearsal meeting, where we will read through and carefully edit the intervention letters. Next, we will clarify our responses to all objections which might arise in the intervention. We will then read through and edit the bottom line letters, which will only be used if we encounter prolonged resistance. Families often find this group experience powerful and inspiring, and you will gain increased confidence in the process. We will set the order of the letters and the seating arrangement. We will also finalize our strategy, taking into account any last-minute developments. We will help you with pre-admission details at your chosen treatment provider and assist with travel arrangements, if necessary. We will work with the team to plan for various scenarios which might take place in the intervention, such as a refusal or a walk out. We will leave no stone unturned in our preparations. The rehearsal takes place the day before the intervention.
Module 3: Intervention Day. Your Love First clinical interventionist will lead your team through every moment of this important day. We begin with a pre-intervention meeting to go over the details and answer any concerns. As the intervention begins, the clinical interventionist will lead your team, introduce the process to the addicted person, facilitate the reading of the letters, and address any difficulties that arise during the process. They will also take the lead in answering objections and working through resistance. If bottom line consequences are required, your interventionist will make the decision on when and if they are to be introduced, although most interventions do not require this step. Your clinical interventionist will help guide your addicted loved one to a YES by focusing the love and concern of the group in the most effective way possible. Love First interventions are successful 85-90% of the time in getting a person into treatment on intervention day. We will provide support through the travel experience, and help to work through any issues. A written clinical synopsis will be provided to the treatment center, to assist in treatment planning.
There is so much more to our modular approach to intervention. Give us a call and we’ll discuss how a Love First intervention can work for your family.
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Note: Most interventions are done in person. However, in response to the pandemic, we can deliver all modules by secure video conference. In today’s environment, some family members and friends are simply unable to be present. We have the solution.
What people are saying…
“Jeff Jay led our family and team masterfully. He orchestrated and facilitated a successful intervention for our family with compassion, perceptiveness and expertise. It was one of the most powerful experiences for our family and close friends on the team.”
–Mother of an addicted son