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Feeling Ready vs. Getting Ready

Believing that feeling ready is a necessity for getting ready is one of the greatest blocks to taking action. If everyone waited until they felt ready, very little would get done in the world.

Taking action is an act of faith. As Helen Keller so beautifully said: “Faith is the strength by which a shattered world shall emerge into the light.”

Faith is what gets our feet moving. We take the first step in the right direction. We must learn what works. Then we can come together as a family and make the best decision on how to proceed.

Intervention as Spiritual Negotiation

Intervention becomes  spiritual negotiation when founded upon a pledge to act with virtue and integrity. We do not battle addiction with anger, judgement, or blame. Instead, we reach out to the true person behind the addiction using love, compassionate honesty, and a vision for the future.

Somewhere far beneath the addiction, inside the captive heart, the true spirit hears the voice of love calling.

In that moment, our loved one stops listening to the voice of addiction. They listen to our voice instead and trust us. In that moment, we move the person we love into the first stage of recovery.

Working Together Works

Love First intervention starts with the basic premise that working together works. Great accomplishments are not achieved alone.

Vince Lombardi, the famous football coach, pointed out that individual commitment to a group effort is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.

It also makes a family work. The group wields more power than any individual.

Underestimating the Power of Addiction

Before anyone attempts an intervention, they need to learn how it’s done. It’s not unusual for some families to resist new information. They prefer to think up solutions on their own.

This is a sign that the family is underestimating the power of addiction. They want to get their loved one sober, but then don’t have the necessary skills.

We sometimes need to put our homespun ideas aside and admit we need someone to show us the way.

“Intervention, like most everything in life, depends more upon our willingness to prepare than our desire to succeed.” -No More Letting Go

Our Loved One is Not Our Adversary

The disease may be our adversary, but the addicted person is not. We can imagine the alcoholic or addict as a hostage who has been brainwashed by his captors. He no longer knows the good guys from the bad guys.

He’s confused when the rescue party arrives. We are calling out to him, but he doesn’t know he needs saving.

Intervention is a plan to subdue the addiction long enough to allow us to convince our addict that we are the good guys. Then we can move him or her into treatment.

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Putting the Family Back on Course

A Love First intervention changes a family’s thinking patterns. It is thought realignment. It moves us toward a sense of purpose, productive behavior, accurate thinking, and clear goals. Intervention requires that we connect with knowledgeable people and communicate on a meaningful level.

When our thinking is straightened out, our lives return to order. Intervention is not just for the benefit of addicts. It is a way of thinking that helps everyone who participates. A Love First intervention puts the entire family back on course.

In the words of entrepreneur W. Clement Stone: “Have the courage to say ‘no.’ Have the courage to face truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.”

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