My daughter is 29 and has always been bright and capable. She graduated from college and has had several good jobs, but she keeps losing them. I believe alcohol is a big part of the problem, and possibly other drugs. She says she’s depressed, but she doesn’t take her medication consistently and refuses to work with a therapist.
Debra and Jeff Jay reflect on receiving the 2026 NAATP Award and four decades of helping families find lasting recovery.
When family members are worried about a loved one’s substance use, they often do the wrong things. They enable the problem without realizing it, thinking they’re being loyal and supportive. They’re making things worse, but they don’t realize it, because it feels like they’re doing the right thing. It feels good.
Are you struggling to make sense of the lies, excuses, and rationalizations your addicted loved one keeps repeating? You don’t have to accept their false narrative. There is a better solution.
I feel like people are ganging up on me–even my family and friends. Everybody tells me I need to go to treatment. They tell me I’m out of control. But I still have a good job, and my kids still love me (even though they live with my ex). I’m not lying in the gutter. The truth is, vodka is my best friend. It’s not judgy, it’s reliable, and it’s legal. I just wish everybody would get off my back.
How to use love to break denial and get your beloved alcoholic into treatment. Fr. Bill W interviews Jeff Jay on the Love First intervention process.
When family members are concerned about a loved one’s alcohol or other drug use, they often do the wrong things.
How to handle the ups and downs of early recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. Perseverance in action.
Jeff Jay was seen on CNN discussing addiction and the family. Hosts Briana Keiler and Boris Sanchez interviewed Jeff…
Alcohol and drug intervention was the subject of an in-depth interview with Dr. Taz. Jeff and Debra Jay shared specific strategies families can use to help their addicted loved one accept treatment.
Debra Jay’s best-selling book, It Takes a Family, is now available as an audiobook.
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Clinical intervention training in the Love First model. Five days with Jeff and Debra Jay, in person.
