Looking Back with Gratitude
Debra and Jeff Jay reflect on receiving the 2026 NAATP Award and four decades of helping families find lasting recovery.
Entries by Jeff Jay
Why You’re Enabling and 4 Ways to Quit
When family members are worried about a loved one’s substance use, they often do the wrong things. They enable the problem without realizing it, thinking they’re being loyal and supportive. They’re making things worse, but they don’t realize it, because it feels like they’re doing the right thing. It feels good.
Alcoholism and Gaslighting
Are you struggling to make sense of the lies, excuses, and rationalizations your addicted loved one keeps repeating? You don’t have to accept their false narrative. There is a better solution.
Why Should I Quit?
I feel like people are ganging up on me–even my family and friends. Everybody tells me I need to go to treatment. They tell me I’m out of control. But I still have a good job, and my kids still love me (even though they live with my ex). I’m not lying in the gutter. The truth is, vodka is my best friend. It’s not judgy, it’s reliable, and it’s legal. I just wish everybody would get off my back.
Intervention Step by Step
How to use love to break denial and get your beloved alcoholic into treatment. Fr. Bill W interviews Jeff Jay on the Love First intervention process.
Why We Keep Enabling—and 4 Ways to Stop
When family members are concerned about a loved one’s alcohol or other drug use, they often do the wrong things.
Perseverance
How to handle the ups and downs of early recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction. Perseverance in action.
Jeff Jay on CNN
Jeff Jay was seen on CNN discussing addiction and the family. Hosts Briana Keiler and Boris Sanchez interviewed Jeff…
Alcohol and Drug Intervention
Alcohol and drug intervention was the subject of an in-depth interview with Dr. Taz. Jeff and Debra Jay shared specific strategies families can use to help their addicted loved one accept treatment.
Now on Audible
Debra Jay’s best-selling book, It Takes a Family, is now available as an audiobook.
Studying the Problem
I know I need to quit drinking, but the AA Big Book isn’t helping me. What should I do?
A Science and Faith Connection?
Can Science prove that AA works?
I Hate Growth
Change is necessary, they say, but sometimes I just don’t like it.
Interventionist Training and Certification
Clinical intervention training in the Love First model. Five days with Jeff and Debra Jay, in person.
Working a Program of Recovery
He was only drinking and smoking weed, but he had terrible consequences.
