No More Letting Go has started a quiet revolution among family members grappling with addiction. Acclaimed by professionals and lay people alike, No More Letting Go presents a new and compelling strategy for dealing with alcoholism and drug addiction.
In short, highly accessible chapters written with warmth, understanding, and compassion, Debra Jay weaves together philosophical and religious thought; new science on the brain function of an addict; the physical and psychological impact of addiction on family members; and poignant, real-life family stories. No More Letting Go is a powerful, informative guide that provides comfort, hope, and practical advice to anyone affected by a family member’s addiction.
Poignant and impactful, this scientifically-based book will bring healing and life to many families.
Debra Jay has written a landmark book about action. As in Love First, she emphasizes that alcoholics and drug addicts do not have to hit rock bottom before they can get sober. Action, she writes, is the key to unlocking the cycle of destruction, and those whose lives are out of control do not have to want help to get help.
Bringing a holistic approach to intervention and treatment, she shows how the minds, bodies, and spirits of alcoholics and drug addicts are intertwined and explores assumptions, emotions, thought processes, and physiological changes (particularly those of the brain). Written primarily for the families of drug and alcohol abusers, this logically arranged and poignantly written book is an essential part of any public library collection; with an extensive list of resources for treatment and recovery.
-Library Journal (starred review), Melody Ballard
Addiction counselors have typically assumed several things: recovery can occur only when the addict decides he or she needs help; this happens only when the addict hits “rock bottom”; until then, the addict’s loved ones should detach emotionally. But Jay, an intervention specialist and author of Love First, believes that untreated addiction is unacceptable because it wrecks families and destroys lives. She outlines a plan to help families get assistance for their addicted loved one without waiting for “rock bottom.” Intriguingly, Jay also casts the battle against addiction as a kind of spiritual war: she redefines detachment as “a spiritual quality that makes action possible,” and describes such action as an act of faith. A fascinating section entitled “What We Know Now,” details current genetic and neuroscientific research into people’s varying susceptibilities to addiction.
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It takes a family
Hitting bottom: a family affair
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