Love First Intervention
create a pathway to yes
Some people say: “You can’t help them until they want help.”
Many families are told they must wait for their alcoholic or addict to hit bottom before there is any hope for recovery. But these myths put families through years of pain. No one ever mentions that when the alcoholic hits bottom, they take their family along for the ride — even the smallest children.
A Love First intervention provides a different solution.
“If you can’t help them until they want help, what will get them to want help?”
When we ask this question, we change everything. We stop focusing on the problem, and start working on the solution. Love First intervention uses the power of love and concern in a specific and organized way to break through denial, so we can help our loved ones get the help they need.
Is an intervention right for you? What are the alternatives? What are the next right steps? (1 min, 2 sec)
What’s the next right step? A 1-hour consult with a clinical interventionist will help you develop the right strategy. (54 sec)
An overview of the Love First intervention process, and working with one of our clinical interventionists. (3 min, 19 sec)
Jeff Jay has been helping families and people suffering from addiction for more than 30 years. (1 min, 47 sec)
careful preparation | thorough planning
Module 1: Assessment & Training
This multi-hour conference will bring your team together and teach them the basics of a Love First intervention. Module 1 is usually done on Zoom, making it easy for everyone to participate. We begin with an overview of the big picture. Intervention and treatment are critical, but they’re just the beginning. We know that if we can help your loved one achieve a full year of recovery, they have the best chance for long-term happiness. We will show you how you can best support them by becoming a family recovery team.
Your clinical interventionist will then conduct a comprehensive assessment by gathering a detailed history from each person. Everyone must hear what everyone else has to say, so we all get on the same page. This history-gathering process will help your interventionist develop an effective strategy, and increase your team’s confidence in the process.
This meeting also includes training on writing intervention letters using the 7-point process outlined in the book Love First, 3rd edition. Additionally, we’ll provide instructions on writing bottom-line letters. We’ll also discuss the objections that may arise during the intervention and develop appropriate responses.
As a result of the assessment, we’ll make treatment recommendations and assist you in contacting appropriate treatment providers. Details about planning and timing will also be discussed.
Finally, we’ll begin to explore the critical role of Structured Family Recovery in your loved one’s recovery, and how the key members of the team will begin that process after the intervention.
Module 2: Preparation and Rehearsal
Planning and preparation are the cornerstones of a successful intervention, and in this module, we’ll examine every detail. We begin with a full rehearsal, where we’ll read aloud and edit every intervention letter to make sure they’re pitch-perfect. Next, we’ll review potential objections that may arise during the intervention and we will role-play how we’re going to answer the objections. We will also read and revise the bottom-line letters, which will only be used if resistance to treatment persists.
Families often find this group experience profoundly impactful and inspiring, and you’ll gain a heightened sense of confidence in the process. We’ll finalize the letter sequence and seating arrangement, taking into account any last-minute developments.
Between Modules 1 and 2, we’ll make treatment recommendations and assist you with pre-admission details at your chosen treatment provider. We’ll work with your core team members to explore support options during and after treatment, including Structured Family Recovery and 12Care, to help your loved one achieve their first full year of recovery.
We will also help with travel arrangements, as necessary. During Module 2 we’ll plan for various scenarios that could arise during the intervention, such as a refusal or a walkout. We’ll leave no stone unturned in our preparations. The rehearsal will be held the day before the intervention. Finally, we will plan for the first meeting of Structured Family Recovery, to begin after your loved one is admitted to treatment.
Module 3: Love First Intervention
Your Love First clinical interventionist will guide your team through every moment of this crucial day. We begin with a pre-intervention meeting to review the details and address any concerns. As the intervention commences, the clinical interventionist will lead your team, introduce the process to the beloved, facilitate the reading of the letters, and address any challenges that arise during the process. They will also respond to objections and help overcome resistance.
Your interventionist will decide on when and if bottom-line letters should be introduced, although most interventions do not require this step. Using years of experience, the interventionist will help your addicted loved one come to a moment of clarity and accept the treatment they’re being offered. Love First interventions have a remarkable success rate of 85-90% in normal circumstances. We will provide support throughout the travel experience and assist in resolving any issues that may arise. A comprehensive written clinical synopsis will be provided to the treatment center to aid in treatment planning.
There is much more to the process, and we’d be glad to talk with you.
“Jeff Jay led our family and team masterfully. He orchestrated and facilitated a successful intervention for our family with compassion, perceptiveness, and expertise. It was one of the most powerful experiences of our lives, both for our family and the close friends on the team.”
–Mother of an addicted son
Let’s explore what it will take to get your loved one to Yes to addiction treatment.
Experience makes the difference. Our clinical interventionists can help your family.
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